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Personal Well-Being is Professional Development

When Pests Strike: Dealing with Bug Shame

I will be the first to tell you that I am just an “okay” housekeeper. I think my house is clean, but like many families, we just have a lot of stuff. My home is usually about 30 minutes of housework away from being ready for company. I was really nervous when we had our […]

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Early Intervention in Everyday Routines

When Fighting Sleep Might Be a Trauma Response

I will never forget the first night of our first foster placement. The evening had been what I call “controlled chaos”—a whirlwind of new toys and new foods. Because he had been so quiet and observant, I felt we had done everything right to build rapport. But the moment I gently lowered him into the […]

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Foster Parenting Home Visiting Adventures

Learning Not to Judge Parenting Choices Different Than My Own

One of the hardest parts of being a foster parent is finding the middle ground. This is the space between your own family’s ideal normal and the reality of a child’s birth family. It is like walking a tightrope. You want to keep your home healthy, but you also want to make sure a child […]

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Foster Parenting

Fostering Parenting Is Its Own Foreign Mission Field

While the foreign missionary crosses an ocean to find the “stranger,” the foster parent finds the “stranger” at their own front door. Both roles require a high degree of cultural humility, a willingness to be uncomfortable, and a commitment to serving someone whose life experience is vastly different from their own.

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Foster Parenting

Surviving A Full Day in the Family Court Waiting Room

Going to court as a foster parent can feel incredibly daunting. The atmosphere is often tense, and the stakes are impossibly high: a child’s entire future hangs in the balance. We know our input is crucial for the judge to make informed decisions, yet the sheer process of getting our two minutes of testimony can […]

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Foster Parenting

Balancing the Needs of Biological and Foster Children

When we first announced our intention to become foster parents, the response wasn’t a universal chorus of support. While friends and family knew our hearts, several expressed a deep, lingering concern: “What about your own children? How will this experience affect them?” It was a fair question, one that sat heavy on our minds as […]

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Sensory Strategies

Sensory Strategy: Weighted Lap Pad

Doing Life with a 4-year old Sensory Seeker: The Power of Weighted Tools As I have mentioned before, our 4 year old foster son was a sensory seeker. All day. Everyday. One of the most challenging environments for our foster son was, surprisingly, the car seat. When he became unregulated in the car, his movements […]

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Challenging Behavior

No Is Not A Dirty Word

Don’t be afraid of the word “no.” Use it as a clear, loving boundary to keep your students safe and help them grow into resilient, emotionally intelligent little people.

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Early Intervention in Everyday Routines

Special Occasion Toys

If a child sees the same toy every single day, their brain eventually tunes it out and stops paying attention to it. However, research shows that if you “rest” a toy by hiding it for a while, the child will be super excited to see it again when you finally bring it back.

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Early Intervention in Everyday Routines Sensory Strategies

DIY Bag of Tricks for Sensory Input

Car rides were a particular struggle. Over time, we found that giving his hands a “something to do” made these moments of stillness much easier. We developed what we called our “Bag of Tricks”—an old cosmetic zipper pouch filled with a rotating selection of toys to keep him engaged.